Dr. Donald Gibson
Narcissistic People, We Have a choice How take or We Can Just walk Away

Matthew 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. This was written in response to calls received by members who have had problems with narcissistic people, some in ministry, some in church and regular people they have had to deal with.

Folks do you know, or have you meet people who won't let you get a word in edge wise? Ever sit with people in a group where someone lectured, rather than just talking to everyone? Have you known or meet people who made it impossible to discuss anything without them telling you you're wrong and they know a better way? I deal with this on a daily basis, everyone knows more than I do, or so they think. Folks these people can be extremely exhausting and very annoying. We must show them mercy and pray for their lack of understanding of others feelings, regardless of how much they annoy us!

James 2:13 - For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment. Does anyone not want a merciful judgment from God, before whom all must stand? The secret to being able to show mercy is to realize where they're coming from. There are many options on how to handle these people now days. I like to try and keep everything real and as simple as possible.

We must understand that we do have a choice about how much we want to, or have to take from them. Here is an example - There he/she goes again, monopolizing the conversation, they know it all and just can't shut up, they just cannot help themselves. " I always think to myself there is not much in this world that is worth arguing over, I know my thoughts or knowledge may exceeds theirs. We just see things differently; that doesn't mean I am stupid or wrong." Another way to respond would be to handle it internally: We may decide to just mentally let it go. Basically we tell ourselves, "This may not be pleasant for me, it may even hurt at times, but the poor man or woman is doing what they needs to do to get their feelings expressed, their needs are being met, or their ego has been feed." Combine out internal empathy (which, I will be the first to admit, isn't easy for me at times) with the knowledge that their lecture may be directed at me or others, but it doesn't really have anything to do with me as a person, or my own level of knowledge. Folks it is always about them: they literally can't help themselves. "If they think they can impress you with something you didn't know, then they feel good about themselves, at least momentarily.

Narcissistic people will always do the same over and over, because their egos are insatiable." We must remember suffering through a one sided conversation is our own choice, "We know that we don't even have to listen unless we have chosen to. If we do get overwhelmed despite our careful responses, it's our choice to say, "Excuse me, that was interesting, but I have to go." You can let your light shine at times by showing mercy and walking away, proving points is not important if we do not have and ego problem ourselves. Please remember I do not expect anyone to believe what I believe, nor do I ask them to. God bless everyone!

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